Social Networking: Changing the world, but for the better?
So last week Liz and I were having dinner with our friends Eric & Elissa. We started to discuss Social Networking and the “social networking phenomena” that has been created on the internet. It’s amusing, you can follow somebody on Twitter, read their blog on Facebook, Myspace, and if they’re a subject based blog like mine probably on Digg. You can track them around the planet through GeoCaching, and catch up with them through instant messaging. The substance of our conversation though is this a “good” thing? Sure social networking can open tons of doors for you. You can make friends you would not have otherwise made, find jobs you would not have otherwise found, and maybe even find the love of your life. Liz and I indirectly met on the internet, and the internet allowed Elissa and Liz to expand their friendship and become the best of friends.
SO now that we know the pro’s to social networking, what are the cons? Well as younger generations are becoming more technologically advanced than previous generations ever were it stands to reason that the school yard bullying will continue on the internet. People seem to be more fearless on the internet. Those who have no confidence in public are quick to find confidence on the internet when attacking somebody 2,500 miles away from them. What is the harm right?
Social networking and what has become of social networking reminds me of the movie “He’s just not that into you” — “I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies.” The sad part is it’s absolutely true. Today we have created a world on the internet that has lowered the level of debate in the country and created just more drama and hostility. High school girls gossip to each other on mypsace and facebook, rumors spread like wildfires, there is no security, no privacy no trust. You message your friend on Facebook, Twitter about it, his girlfriend reads your twitter, logins into his facebook, reads what you wrote, and WHAM drama insues.
The social networking bubble is nothing more than a gigantic pot that can literally explode at any minute and completely destroy your entire social life — and for what? Two sentences on the wrong person’s profile? You post something, perhaps a blog, a statement, people make comments you don’t like — you delete them — what is that? You can speak your mind, but can’t accept the criticism? You are a fan of somebody or a politician, chef, restaurant, whatever, you talk about it, somebody else doesn’t agree and suddenly you’re waged in this cyber war posting hatred things on each others profiles. It ends with you deleting them, them deleting you, and exchanging text messages that make Ari Gold look like an angel.
Our society thrives on this, embraces it, news outlets use it to connect, heck, even the President of the United States used Twitter. What have we become? Is this a society of staying completely connected, or a society that thrives on drama. Our response now is like “Oh I’ll show them, I’ll unfriend them from myspace” or “HAH! I blocked you on facebook.” It’s as if these social networking technologies, and how much you use them have become a status symbol. You’re either in or you’re out but you can’t be both. You can’t even raise the level of debate in the country because people share opinions and either delete you, or have 500 other people make comments to bury yours.
The irony of course is this blog is RSS feed to linkedin, facebook, and will likely be dugg — but that’s ok. I have no problem with the technology, in fact, I think Social Networking is great, but I think we as a society need to really re-evaluate our obsession with it. It is sad, but I’m probably a minority in the sense that every “friend” on facebook I actually know. Yes, its good to stay connected, and things like twitter have allowed people who would not have otherwise communicated with common folk (i.e.: Ashton Kutcher) to reach an audience — but what really has this whole thing turned into? It seems like more of a circus than anything else
Keeping with more of the irony, I’ll even tag Eric & Elissa in this blog since I mentioned them.






